tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6580314650764949786.post5058243863358261725..comments2009-05-31T15:08:51.395-07:00Comments on My ramblings: My latest huge decisionErinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07095716631692896303noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6580314650764949786.post-30579759419993662892009-05-31T15:08:51.395-07:002009-05-31T15:08:51.395-07:00Hi Erin, it's such a tough decision. The trial pe...Hi Erin, it's such a tough decision. The trial period sounds like a great bet. I believe that you will make it work out no matter what you decide. It just seems to me like you need to follow your heart and your instincts on this. If you go up there for a month as a trial, I think the answer at the end of the month will be more clear to you. Of course it won't be cold there, but you will know how you feel being up there and have a much better idea if you could be happy there permanently. I know the cost of living in NY drove me down here, so I hear you financially speaking. I cannot afford to live up there no matter what. <br /><br />If you do decide to stay here, what we talked about is always a part time job option, even when you're in school.Lizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04885893341721869272noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6580314650764949786.post-25457495052483417532009-05-30T08:55:18.525-07:002009-05-30T08:55:18.525-07:00You certainly have the list of pros and cons down,...You certainly have the list of pros and cons down, and when you look at them individually they're quite compelling. It's just when you place them side by side and have to compare... It's easy to see why this is such a difficult decision.<br /><br />As you know, we made a huge change four years ago. It resulted in us making a huge change a year ago, and will soon result in huge change again. I can tell you that the kids ARE resilient. Tremendously so. I can also tell you that being near my family has been more wonderful than I could have imagined. Not only has the support been wonderful for me, but it's been AMAZING to see the relationship between the boys and their grandparents develop into something really, really beautiful. <br /><br />At 7 and 4 the boys are obviously too young to help you make this decision. That pressure shouldn't be placed on a child. However, they're not too young to talk to about it. We're doing our best to prepare the kids for what is to come. They know that we'll have to move, they know that we don't know where yet, they know that it'll probably be far away, but more importantly they know that we'll be there for them. We try to remain upbeat about the coming changes, leading by the example that this is going to be a fun and exciting adventure (even though in reality the entire prospect terrifies me).<br /><br />Whatever decision you make I know that you and the boys will be fine. And in the end, even if you make the wrong decision now it doesn't mean that you can't make the right decision later.<br /><br />Good luck!Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13185993142291569388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6580314650764949786.post-46200888972631006502009-05-30T07:28:12.387-07:002009-05-30T07:28:12.387-07:00Erin,
This is really hard and you have really tho...Erin,<br /><br />This is really hard and you have really thought it out well. From reading what you have to say here's my thought. Moving is a big change - staying is easier for starts. Whatever decision you make right now in no way needs to be final. You could commit to a year in FLA in an apartment and by then you will know for sure if you want to stay or go. Deciding between two unknowns is very, very hard. If you stay one year then you will know if you want to move or not.<br /><br />On the other hand, if being near family and being home with the boys more is your top priority then you should just go. You have a place to live. The boys will absolutely make new friends, especially at their age. This is truly if being with family is #1. If that is so then weather, cost of living, etc don't matter. <br /><br />I would be SO torn also if I were you. <br /><br />hugsSusanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16221291286533081990noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6580314650764949786.post-91730784252453399332009-05-30T07:22:56.147-07:002009-05-30T07:22:56.147-07:00I can't really talk to the kids..I mean I have but...I can't really talk to the kids..I mean I have but it became clear they are just too young. Only 4 and 7.Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07095716631692896303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6580314650764949786.post-23396152722586051912009-05-30T07:14:59.587-07:002009-05-30T07:14:59.587-07:00Erin...this is a tough decision for anyone to make...Erin...this is a tough decision for anyone to make...you definitly have the pro's and the con's all worked out...have you talked to the kids to see how they feel? And honeslty it really does come down to money...I don't have kids and can't give you my opinion on that...however they are young and can make new friends wherever you go...the only other thing I can support is by sending you love and prayers to make the decision which is best...and you will know when it is time...SAMAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com